A piece of my mind

You know, starting right now I want to make this whole blog just a place where I want to share a piece of my mind about anything. Starting with an issues that kinda bugging me, education. Why? Because this thing is important whether you like it or not.

 I lived in Indonesia, and east side of the world where you know in the past is a common thing to get married at a very young age with someone around his or her age or even twice or triple his or her age are. When they get married usually the women will stay at home and doesn’t continue their education. This is kind of thing I thought well that the past not right now. Even if that happen maybe the person at least already graduated high school. Well that’s what I thought the world would be until this recent events happen not to me but to other people.

My aunt booked an appointment in the salon for me so someone could do my hair for some kinda black tie event thingy. This is just like a home salon where the hairdresser is one of my aunt friend an when the appointment day come my aunt cannot with me. I go there alone and the salon kinda crowded and the only hair dresser is he (let’s call him John). John have this salon for a long time and he basically he knew quite a lot of people in the area. I’m knew to this area and my aunt don’t. when it’s time for me go get styling, there was another customer came. While curling my hair John was chatting with the customer and let’s call her Anna. So because I wear glasses I couldn’t wear it when he was doing my hair. So I can’t see clearly so I can’t play with my phone. While john doing my hair and talking to Anna they got in the part where Anna told him that one of her daughter is a newly wed. john was kinda shock because she remembered that her child who’s not married is like a teenage girl. John asked again who’s the one who getting married and Ana said that her daughter at the age of 15 is getting married, not because Anna was matching there up, because her choice. John was asking again really carefully about why letting her daughter at the age of 15 to get married, like is it MBA or they have debts or something that literally just straight up asking why? Anna then said it was her choice because her daughter are skipping school and trying to get  a job that will make her and her boyfriend in one place. So again John asked if she stay in school or not, and Anna said no she drop out from school,but there’s a but with a happy face said well she have a job at least. So her boyfriend is just a waiter in like a small restaurant and she worked at some small stationery supply store and the boyfriend is just 17 years old, also drop out from school not because doing something bad just because choice. Anna’s daughter still asking for her ‘pocket money’ and she still gave it up.

This kinda open my eyes about how some people still underestimate education. How Anna was not even want to debate with her daughter about her future, at least if she wants to get married finish also your own education. How some people just have their mindset about if I work I’ll have money rather that others who has a mindset about how about I gather up my education and my social skill and improve my talent and chase my dream. Anna said that her daughter had a dream of becoming a pharmacist and just buried that dream because she wants to get married at such a young age. Now days in Indonesia especially in Jakarta you literally you don’t have to do anything to earn an education. Your school is free you have your text book free and for those who isn’t capable for buying uniform and note book, you have a KJP (it’s like a debit card for poor for school needs and the government paid it). If you want togot to a higher education such as college there’s a ton of scholarship, programs from the government and etc. but she gave it all up and not even a single member in her family stop her for doing that. I’m so angry not just for her but for Anna too. She her mother, she knows her daughter is an excellent child and will have a good future but gave it all up because somehow her little girl just skipping school for a couples days just to see her boyfriend and not talk about it anymore, or just do something to make her knew that she’s off track and she might ruin her future.

I was at the salon last week and ask John how’s going on with his life and asked about Anna’s daughter. John and then explain to me that Anna’s daughter won’t get back to school again because her in-law still a traditional people who believe that women belong in the kitchen not outside the kitchen. And still that make me so angry like I want to lecture one by one this people to say “hey, wake up this is 21^st  century that women could have better education than women, that hey this is a big world with a lot  of new changes and if your not smart or talented or hardworking enough you could be homeless and done, yes you could be defeated by world. Is now she’s happy with her new life? Some say yes, some say no. Now she had a burden to take care of her husband, buried her dream deep enough that just maybe she can continue it, and still figuring how she will got some decent job with her middle school.

So for anyone, anyone who make their new changes in their life, thing about your future, your happiness and your self. Try to thing further enough about anything. Your future is in your hand, yes somebody will effect that, and yes somebody will push you the edges and try to break you, but remember you have a choice. A destiny will not be a destiny if you didn’t do anything about it. So in your hand you have a your best life or just a life. After all we only live once right?